What is Broken Sexuality?

I think when we hear that term, some of us think the only people who experience broken sexuality are those who are following Christ and have intentionally stepped out of his design for sex. But the more you dig into this journey with us, you will find that every single one of us is sexually broken, because we are human and because of the world we live in.

Before we realize this, we first have to recognize that sex is a gift, that it was given to us by God and it was all his idea. No one talks about this, but in the beginning, before the world was scarred by sin, this was what God gave to us so that we could see God’s deep love for us. It is a picture of covenant with Him. Today, we are experiencing a lot of fallout, because we have lost this truth that sex is a gift from God. Think about this, what would you tell someone is the best reason to wait to have sex until marriage? Besides the fact that we are Christ-followers, and we trust Him and in His Word he says to wait. What are the benefits of waiting? Why is it worth the wait? Do you have an answer? Sadly, MOST of us do not have an answer for this question. Until we truly recognize that sex within marriage is a beautiful gift from God, we won’t be able to answer this question!

Every one of us will always have to fight this tension of what God intended for sex in marriage and still being affected by the brokenness of the world. We have this fight, our kids have this fight, our parents have this fight, everyone! And we can all be drawn into the triggers, whether it’s something on tv, something on social media, etc., that tells us that sex is shameful or dirty. Its so important to understand what sexual brokenness can do to separate us from the one who designed it. We constantly have to realign our thinking with God’s word that says sex is good and beautiful. But that is worth the fight! I get it, this may be shocking. But we have to realize this to know that we have to be on guard! And to be able to experience the true beauty of what God intended. And there is so much hope, because our brokenness can be redeemed and restored by Jesus! And there is so much beauty to be found in intimacy with the Lord. Be encouraged, because this is a journey, pursue God, because He meets us where we are.

So, where do we go from here?

First, become aware of where we are right now. Seek God and determine where you are in relationship with God. We can’t just try to go fix our kids or our spouse first, without going to God. As we are healed by the healer and bring our brokenness to Him, and ask him to shine light on it, only then can we speak truth into others lives. Once you begin this journey with Jesus, spending time with Him, getting to know Him, this gives you the freedom to have no fear, guilt, and shame. Because this is where truth comes in, and we find that abundant life that Jesus came to give us. And even though there is a sad reality that we are all sexually broken and we are all affected by this world that is broken and has perverted sexuality in so many ways, we can still experience the abundant life, because it’s a life of freedom and peace in knowing that he’s covered it all. We are all pursuing covenant with him. Married or not, we all have the hope of covenant with him. We also have to remember that sex will never completely satisfy us, God is the only thing that can truly satisfy. It is only in relationship with him that we will feel quenched.

This information was taken from a Worth the Fight podcast episode, for more info on this subject, listen to the full episode here: https://podlink.to/worth-the-fight-08